I’ve done a lot I regret. This goes for both in business and life, but I know that if it weren’t for those moments, I wouldn’t have become the person I am today.
The thing about making mistakes is that they’re humbling, and they’re not great to experience as you go through them. There are moments that I’ve just straight up bulldozed through and hoped for the best.
There were opportunities and partnerships that I said yes to, which I had no business accepting—all of those moments taught me how to get better and work through what I didn’t know.
The masochistic part of me likes to go back and pick at my scabs to truly understand where things went south. I’d like to tell you that there’s more to just recapping a situation and apologizing once the dust settles.
I’ve discovered that character plays a huge part in learning and evolving from a mistake. Hopefully, my hard-earned lessons can stop you from making similar mistakes.
As a leader, it’s vital to have good character because you lead by example. Your attitude towards other people and how you deal with them will be a red or green flag.
And the thing is, everyone has the potential of being a leader. A position with all the acronyms isn’t the defining line in what it takes to be a leader.
Character is one of the foundations of being a good leader. Or a good boss or a good partner. You have control over yourself and how you react or don’t react to something or someone.
It can be difficult to unlearn bad traits, but that’s the cost of authentic and genuine growth.
How to survive an oops moment at work?
Mindset Reframe: “Never a mistake, always a lesson.”
If you failed or did something cringeworthy, it’s a good thing. Why? You get to fail upwards by learning from it. It’s not fun to feel like you’ve failed, but it can be fuel under the fire to get you right back up there again and doing your best.
Be Vulnerable and own it – you made a mistake, so what?? Get on with it and grow from it.
Don’t make excuses for yourself. A mistake happened, by being humble enough to accept that they do happen and owning up to them is an avenue for growth. The more you make excuses, the more that you’re duplicit.
Embrace your raw side – Making a mistake forces you to see your imperfections. It pushes you to be aware of your flaws and shortcomings.
This one is tough for many people because they want to forget that they’ve made a mistake. When making a mistake, it’s good to inspect what you’ve done, actions, and friction points so that you can use it to grow. The more you expose yourself to your raw side, the more immune you become to people who would frown on you.
Say, Next – Seriously, say this every single time. Make the word ”Next” a power word. Chin Up and Head High! Got rejected? Simply say, “Next.”
Dwelling on the rejection, especially in businesses that involve constant face-to-face or immediate answers, can be emotionally taxing. It never gets easy, but I want you to understand that one person’s opinion should never define who you are.
Instead of tolerating the pain, you get from rejection, don’t forget to have compassion for yourself.
Take the time to push your ego out of the way and try to see what you need to learn from this experience. Only then you’ll know that you have a further road to travel than you initially thought.
Turn what scares you into a power word.
Get excited about failing, motivate through learning, and look forward to moving onto what’s NEXT. Aristotle noted how having balanced character is essential to lead people to do the right thing in the right way.
For more of these articles, look up my other ones about the self and doing some inner work: Self Evaluation- How Does Your Real CV Look Like?